Be a Triangle: How I Went from Being Lost to Getting My Life into Shape

Because without a true understanding of who I wanted to be and how I wanted to live my life, I defined myself by what I wasn’t, because what I wasn’t was very apparent to me. Without a strong foundation to steady you and a set of values to guide you, you stop being someone with limitless potential and become someone defined only by your pain. Unfortunately pain often screams louder than potential in our minds.

Something horrible will often lead to something great, whether it’s a lesson, a skill learned, or a layer of resilience.

Change the conversation from “I’m such a stupid person” to “I’m someone currently struggling to figure out a problem I’ve never experienced before.

Now when I meditate, I spend half of my time receiving love and half of my time giving love back to the universe. I think about what it is I need from the universe, and I give that very thing back. For example, if I wake up heartbroken over a failed work project, not only do I ask for the strength and guidance to overcome the hurdle, but I also send love to everyone else waking up heartbroken who may be feeling just like me because of their failed work project. I think about those who need help and how I might possibly help them. I declare that part of my purpose is to serve the world around me. I set my intention of being a good partner to the universe.

The only thing you can control in this life is the relationship you have with yourself. Prioritize it, nurture it, make it the foundation of who you are. That way, no matter what new hurdles come your way each day, you can always come home to a relationship with yourself.

Without a strong foundation to steady you and a set of values to guide you, you stop being someone with limitless potential and become someone defined only by your pain. Unfortunately pain often screams louder than potential in our minds.