Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl—A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship

Bitch (noun): A woman who won't bang her head against the wall obsessing over someone else's opinion - be it a man or anyone else in her life. She understands that if someone does not approve of her, it's just one person's opinion; therefore, it's of no real importance. She doesn't try to live up to anyone else's standards - only her own. Because of this, she relates to a man very differently.

Be an independent thinker at all times, and ignore anyone who attempts to define you in a limiting way.

That's the big picture, your happiness. And health. You should never care what a man thinks of you -- until he demonstrates to you that he cares about making you happy. If he isn't trying to make you happy, then send him back from "whence" he came because winning him over will have no benefit. At the end of the day, happines, joy...and yes...your emotional stability...those comprise the only measuring stick you really need to have.

Live by your own rules Move to your rhythm, instead of dancing to the beat of someone else’s drum Decide how you want to be treated Choose what you will or will not tolerate Leave if you don’t get what you want.

Anytime a woman competes with another woman she demeans herself.

He must feel that you choose to be with him, not that you need to be with him.

Once you start laughing, you start healing.

Truly powerful people don't explain why they want respect. They simply don't engage someone who doesn't give it to them.

When you meet someone who is truly great, he makes you believe you can be great, too. This is the kind of relationship you want, and it's the only kind of relationship worth having.

Men don't respond to words. What they respond to is "no contact".

When you live life with him or without him, that is when he will accept and value you for who you are.

The more independent you are of him, the more interested he will be.

The most attractive quality of all is dignity.

Before sex, a man isn't thinking clearly and a woman is thinking clearly. After sex, it reverses. The man is thinking clearly and a woman isn't.

Many people lack the basic equipment to be in a relationship and there's nothing you can do to change it. You can't take a skunk and dip it in perfume and hope it becomes a puppy. Eventually, the perfume will wear off and you'll still have a skunk on your hands.

If someone else doesn't like your confidence, that's their problem. Why? You always come before they do, that's why.

Success in love isn't about looks, it's about attitude.

Agree with everything, explain nothing, then do what is best for you.

Until he gives you a reason not to trust him, behave as though you trust him.

You always want what you can’t have.

Standing up for yourself doesn't always involve verbal confrontation. Sometimes it's about not wasting energy on people who are negative.

Men control the world, but women control the men.

The nice girl makes the mistake of being available all the time.

A dreamgirl, on the other hand, won't kill herself to impress anyone.

Most women are starving to receive something from a man that they need to give to themselves

If you can't convince 'em, confuse 'em.

When you nag, you become the problem, an he deals with it by turning you out, but when you dont nag, he deals with the problem.

When a man takes a woman for granted, he still looks for reassurance that she is still right there.

Because of his hormones, he only has three emotions: crabby, hungry, horny.

You can get away with saying much more with humor than you can with a straight face