John Gray · 368 pages
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“When a man can listen to a woman's feelings without getting angry and frustrated, he gives her a wonderful gift.
He makes it safe for her to express herself.
The more she is able to express herself, the more she feels heard and understood, and the more she is able to give a man the loving trust, acceptance, appreciation, admiration, approval, and encouragement that he needs.”
“Men are motivated when they feel needed while women are motivated when they feel cherished.”
“" when men and women are able to respect and accept their differences then love has a chance to blossom ”
“Because she is afraid of not being supported, she unknowingly pushes away the support she needs.”
“Love brings up our unresolved feelings . One day we are feeling loved , and the next day we are suddenly afraid to trust love .
The painful memories of being rejected begin to surface when we are faced with trusting and accepting our partner's love .”
“we are unique individuals with unique experiences”
“If we are to feel the positive feelings of love, happiness, trust, and gratitude, we periodically also have to feel anger, sadness, fear, and sorrow.”
“If I seek to fulfill my own needs at the expense of my partner, we are sure to experience unhappiness, resentment, and conflict. The secret of forming a successful relationship is for both partners to win.”
“Not to be needed is a slow death for a man.”
“ان اكبر تحديات الرجل ترجمة كلام المرأة اذا تحدثت و مساندتها بالتفهم والتأييد المناسبين للموقف و لمشاعرها... و اكبر تحديات المرأة تأويل صمت الرجل و مساندته بتقبله و دعمه بان تترك له المساحة التي يحتاج اليها”
“لا يدرك الرجل بـ أن الشئ القليل بـ النسبة إلي المرأة مهم تماما مثل الشئ الكبير :)”
“Get the love you deserve and gave your partner the love and support he deserves”
“و النساء مثل الزهريات يحفزن و يتمكن عندما يشعرن بأنهن معززات ,, و عندما لا تشعر امرأة بأنها معززة في إطار علاقة تصبح تدريجيا مسئولة بطريقة قهرية و منهكة من البذل الزائد ,, و من ناحية أخرى عندما تشعر بأنها تلقى الرعاية و الاحترام فإنها تكون مشبعة ولديها المزيد من العطاء أيضا .”
“تشعر المرأه بالدعم والمسانده اذا صدق الرجل مشاعرها , ويشعر الرجل بالرعاية والاهتمام اذا وافقته المرأة افكارها ”
“Books can inspire you to love yourself more, but by listening to, writing out, or verbally expressing your feelings you are actually doing it.”
“المشاركة في مشكلاتك مع شخص آخر تعتبر على سطح الزهرة في الحقيقة علامة حب وثقة وليس عبئا”
“حاجات النساء للشعور بالتحسن عن طريق التحدث عن المشكلات أما الرجال عن طريق حل المشكلات”
“When a woman's wave rises she feels she has an abundance of love to give, but when it falls she feels her inner emptiness and needs to be filled up with love.”
“Men need to remember that women talk about problems to get close and not necessarily to get solutions.”
“We mistakenly assume that if our partners love us they will react and behave in certain ways—the ways we react and behave when we love someone.”
“النية الحسنة لاتكفي....
إن الوقوع في الحب شيء سحري دائماً....تشعر كأنه أبدي وكأنه سيدوم لأبد...إننا نعتقد بسذاجة أننا مستثنون من المشكلات التي واجهها آبائنا وأمهاتنا
ولايوجد لدينا احتما بأن الحب قد يموت ومطمئنون إلى أنه وجد ليبقى وأنه مقدر لنا أن نعيش سعداء إلى الأبد ...!!! ولكن السحر يتقهقر وتكون الغلبة للحياة اليومية..!!!
ويظهر للعيان أن الرجال يتوقعون من النساء أن يفكرن وأن تكون ردود أفعالهن مثل الرجال والنساء يتوقعن أن يشعر الرجال ويتصرفنون مثل النساء ودون وعي صريح باختلافاتنا فنحن لا نأخذ الوقت الكافي لنفهم ونحترم بعضنا البعض...ونصبح كثيري المطالب قاسين ومستائين ونصدر الأحكام وغير قادرين على التحمل.
ومع أفضل وأعظم نوايا الحب يظل الحب يموت...بطريقة ما تتسلل المشكلات...يتراكم الاستياء...تتعطل الاتصالات...وتزداد عدم الثقة...وينتج الجفاء والكبت ويضيع سحر الحب”
“Wanita senang hatinya bila mempunyai teman yang dapat berbagi kesulitannya.
Lelaki senang hatinya bila dapat memecahkan kesulitannya sendirian di guanya.”
“Mental chemistry creates interest, Emotional chemistry Generates Affection, Physical chemistry generates desire, and Spiritual chemistry creates love. A soulmate includes all four...and I will not settle for anything less!”
“When negative feelings are suppressed positive feelings become suppressed as well, and love dies.”
“شعارهن على سطح الزهرة (الحب هو ألا يكون عليك أن تطلب أبداً ) فهي تفترض أنه اذا كان شريكها يحبها، فسوف يقوم بتقديم دعمه ولن يكون عليها أن تطلب”
“Remember, if a man needs to pull away like a rubber band, when he returns he will be back with a lot more love. Then he can listen. This is the best time to initiate conversation.”
“Fortunately perfection is not a requirement for creating great relationships.”
“A woman should not be judged for needing this reassurance, just as a man should not be judged for needing to withdraw.”
“When she says “I feel like you are not even here,” he says “What do you mean I’m not here? Of course I am here. Don’t you see my body?”
“Just as a man is fulfilled through working out the intricate details of solving a problem, a woman is fulfilled through talking about the details of her problems.”
“Oh, fuck it. Yes, I'm in love with her. I honestly can't remember a time that I wasn't.”
“Never relinquish your terrors. That's when they catch you.”
“What a great article," Lockwood said, for the twentieth time that day. "Couldn't have been better."
"They spelled my name wrong," I pointed out.
"They didn't mention me at all," George said.
"Well, in all the essentials, I mean." Lockwood grinned round at us.”
“He'd always assumed those ancient poets had been full of shit, or at least had much better drugs than he’d ever tried.”
“And I want us to find our own thing or maybe find out that our own thing is everything, because I feel like if I have him, even the stupid stuff would matter”
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