Quotes from He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“A man who wants to make a relationship work will move mountains to keep the
woman he loves”
― Greg Behrendt, quote from He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“Here's something else to think about: calling when you say you're going to is the very first brick in the house you are building of love and trust. If he can't lay this one stupid brick down, you ain't never gonna have a house baby, and it's cold outside.”
― Greg Behrendt, quote from He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“Don’t spend your time on and give your heart to any guy who makes you wonder about anything
related to his feelings for you”
― Greg Behrendt, quote from He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“Let’s start with this statistic: You are delicious. Be brave, my sweet. I know you can get lonely. I know you can crave companionship and sex and love so badly that it physically hurts. But I truly believe that the only way you can find out that there’s something better out there is to first believe there’s something better out there. What other choice is there?”
― Greg Behrendt, quote from He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“Don’t be flattered that he misses you. He should miss you. You are deeply missable. However, he’s still the same person who just broke up with you. Remember, the only reason he can miss you is because he’s choosing, every day, not to be with you.”
― Greg Behrendt, quote from He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“You picked a lemon, throw it away lemonade is overrated. Freaks should remain at the circus, not in your apartment. You already have one asshole. You don’t need another. Make a space in your life for the glorious things you deserve. Have faith.”
― Greg Behrendt, quote from He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“Busy' is another word for 'asshole'. 'Asshole' is another word for the guy you're dating.”
― Greg Behrendt, quote from He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“Because here’s what guys don’t do if they can’t live without you: They don’t break up with you.”
― Greg Behrendt, quote from He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“But what I can do is paint you a picture of what you’ll never see when you’re with a guy who’s really into you: You’ll never see you staring maniacally at your phone, willing it to ring. You’ll never see you ruining an evening with friends because you’re calling for your messages every fifteen seconds. You’ll never see you hating yourself for calling him when you know you shouldn’t have. What you will see is you being treated so well that no phone antics will be necessary. You’ll be too busy being adored.”
― Greg Behrendt, quote from He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“Life is hard enough as it is without choosing someone difficult to share it with”
― Greg Behrendt, quote from He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“I’m about to make a wild, extreme, and severe relationship rule: THE WORD "BUSY" IS A LOAD OF CRAP AND IS MOST OFTEN USED BY ASSHOLES. The word “busy” is the relationship Weapon of Mass Destruction. Remember: Men are never too busy to get what they want.”
― Greg Behrendt, quote from He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“When it comes to men, deal with them as they are, not how you’d like them to be.”
― Greg Behrendt, quote from He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“I believe in love the verb, not the noun.”
― Greg Behrendt, quote from He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“If a guy truly likes you, but for personal reasons he needs to take things slow, he will let you know that immediately. He won’t keep you guessing,
because he’ll want to make sure you don’t get frustrated and go away.”
― Greg Behrendt, quote from He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“Always be classy. Never be crazy.”
― Greg Behrendt, quote from He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“I'm tired of seeing great women in bullshit relationships.”
― Greg Behrendt, quote from He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“He doesn’t have to love your CD collection. He doesn’t have to love your shoes. But any good, mature guy better make an attempt to love your friends and family—especially when they’re great.”
― Greg Behrendt, quote from He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“The quickest way to rectify that mistake (choosing the wrong person) is by learning from that, moving on, and choosing much more wisely in the future.”
― Greg Behrendt, quote from He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“We (men) would rather lose an arm out a city bus window than tell you simply, “You’re not the
one.” We are quite sure you will kill us or yourself or both—or even worse, cry and yell at us.”
― Greg Behrendt, quote from He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“If you can find him, then he can find you. If he wants to find you, he will.”
― Greg Behrendt, quote from He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“..he may love you, he may miss you, but ultimately he's just not that into you.”
― Greg Behrendt, quote from He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“Don't you want the guy who'll forget about all the other things in his life before he forgets about you?”
― Greg Behrendt, quote from He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“The only reason he can miss you is because he’s choosing, every day, not to be with you.”
― Greg Behrendt, quote from He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“You already have one asshole, you don't need another one”
― Greg Behrendt, quote from He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“Remember always what you set out to get, and please don’t settle for less.”
― Greg Behrendt, quote from He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“There will never be a good time, financially, to get married, unless you're Shaq or Ray Romano. But somehow people manage. If your man is using money as an excuse not to marry you, it's your relationship that's insecure, not his bank account.”
― Greg Behrendt, quote from He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“The word “busy” is the relationship Weapon of Mass Destruction. It seems like a good excuse, but in fact, in every silo you uncover, all you’re going to find is a man who didn’t care enough to call. Remember: Men are never too busy to get what they want.”
― Greg Behrendt, quote from He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“He doesn't need to be reminded you're great.”
― Greg Behrendt, quote from He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“We’re taught that in life, we should try to look on the bright side, to be optimistic. Not in this case. In this case, look on the dark side. Assume rejection first. Assume you’re the rule, not the exception.”
― Greg Behrendt, quote from He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

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