“sometimes the best thing to do is to
pretend it didn't happen”
― Candace Bushnell, quote from Summer and the City
“Just because something doesn't last forever, it doesn't mean it wasn't meaningful while it did last. It doesn't mean it wasn't important.”
― Candace Bushnell, quote from Summer and the City
“I'm not ashamed of anything I've done.
Shame is a useless emotion.”
― Candace Bushnell, quote from Summer and the City
“maybe he's falling in love with the idea of falling in love with me. Maybe he wants to be in love with someone and I've ended up in the right place at the right time.”
― Candace Bushnell, quote from Summer and the City
“The heart wants what the heart wants”
― Candace Bushnell, quote from Summer and the City
“All men are a disappointment. No matter what anyone says.”
― Candace Bushnell, quote from Summer and the City
“I'm certainly not going to put my life on hold for him.”
― Candace Bushnell, quote from Summer and the City
“Should, is the worst word
in the English language. People always think things "should" be a certain way, and when they're
not, they're disappointed.”
― Candace Bushnell, quote from Summer and the City
“It's hard to be careful, though, when you feel indestructible.”
― Candace Bushnell, quote from Summer and the City
“I'm looking for love. Real love. Ridiculous, inconvenient, consuming, can't-live-without-each-other love.”
― Candace Bushnell, quote from Summer and the City
“You choose the end of the summer to fall in love with this guy
because secretly, you don’t want it to last.”
― Candace Bushnell, quote from Summer and the City
“Always look like you know where you're going, even when you don't”
― Candace Bushnell, quote from Summer and the City
“Why do magazines do this to women? It's
all about creating insecurity. Trying to make women feel like they're not good enough. And when women don't feel like they're good enough, guess what? Men win. That's how they keep us down.”
― Candace Bushnell, quote from Summer and the City
“Like me, he has a searing belief that books are sacred. They might not be to other people, but when you have a passion, you hold on to it. You defend it. You dont pretend it isn't important at the risk of offending others." -Carrie.”
― Candace Bushnell, quote from Summer and the City
“I don't consider my work a job. I consider it a career. And you
don't quit a career.”
― Candace Bushnell, quote from Summer and the City
“The heart wants what the heart wants," she says, somewhat cryptically. I purse my lips in disapproval. "You'd think the heart would know better.”
― Candace Bushnell, quote from Summer and the City
“Have I ever been in love? Really in love? And why is it that with each new guy I think I'm more in love with him than the last?”
― Candace Bushnell, quote from Summer and the City
“Why do I keep evading my work? Is it because I’m afraid of being confronted by my lack of abilities?”
― Candace Bushnell, quote from Summer and the City
“Everything I need is in my head, and no one can take that away.”
― Candace Bushnell, quote from Summer and the City
“If a man doesn’t ask you to marry him -- or at least live with him -- after two years, he never will. It means he’s only interested in having a good time.”
― Candace Bushnell, quote from Summer and the City
“Why do magazines do this to women?” Miranda complains now, glaring at Vogue. “It’s all about creating insecurity. Trying to make women feel like they’re not good enough. And when women don’t feel like they’re good enough, guess what?”
“What?” I ask, picking up the grocery bag.
“Men win. That’s how they keep us down,” she concludes.
“Except the problem with women’s magazines is that they’re written by women,” I point out.
“That only shows you how deep this thing goes. Men have made women coconspirators in their own oppression. I mean, if you spend all your time worrying about leg hair, how can you possibly have time to take over the world?”
― Candace Bushnell, quote from Summer and the City
“Should," I suddenly recal myself saying to Samantha and Miranda, "is the worst word in the English language. People always thing thing 'should' be a certain way, and when they're not, they're disappointed.”
― Candace Bushnell, quote from Summer and the City
“I’ve never understood sexy lingerie. I mean, what’s the point? The guy’s only going to take it off.”
― Candace Bushnell, quote from Summer and the City
“No matter what you think you can be, when you’re forced to stop and look at where you actually are, it’s pretty depressing.
Sometimes, there is no escaping the truth”
― Candace Bushnell, quote from Summer and the City
“Have I become the girl who waits by the phone, hoping it will ring, who asks a friend to dial her number to make sure the phone is working?”
― Candace Bushnell, quote from Summer and the City
“Sex. It’s the biggest sham of all. I mean, your whole life, all you ever hear is how you’re supposed to save yourself for marriage. And how it’s so special. And then you finally do it. And you’re like, that’s it? This is what everyone’s been raving about?”
― Candace Bushnell, quote from Summer and the City
“Maybe you can’t have it both ways. His life and your life. How do you put two lives together, anyway?”
― Candace Bushnell, quote from Summer and the City
“Don’t you think it’s weird when someone has photographs of themselves all over the place? It’s like they’re trying to prove they exist.”
― Candace Bushnell, quote from Summer and the City
“I take his hand in mine, running my fingers over the palm. His hands are lovely and lean, and I can't help thinking about those hands on my body. The sexiest part of a man is his hands.”
― Candace Bushnell, quote from Summer and the City
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“Mi piaceva osservare la pasta che lievitava al calore della fiamma, e scaldare il forno con le fascine, raccattandone poi la cenere, e allineare per bene le pagnottine. Era piacevole stare nella cucina calda e piena di luce, in cui si diffondeva il buon odore del pane, e guardare fuori i campi e i boschi grigi, freddi e solitari, e poi chiudere le imposte, accendere la candela, apparecchiare e mettere a scaldare la focaccia di patate sulla brace, e sapere anche che di lì a poco tutti quelli che amavo sarebbero stati al riparo per una notte intera.”
― Mary Webb, quote from Precious Bane
“The essence of meditation practice in Dzogchen is encapsulated by these four points:
▪ When one past thought has ceased and a future thought has not yet risen, in that gap, in between, isn’t there a consciousness of the present moment; fresh, virgin, unaltered by even a hair’s breadth of a concept, a luminous, naked awareness?
Well, that is what Rigpa is!
▪ Yet it doesn’t stay in that state forever, because another thought suddenly arises, doesn’t it?
This is the self-radiance of that Rigpa.
▪ However, if you do not recognize this thought for what it really is, the very instant it arises, then it will turn into just another ordinary thought, as before. This is called the “chain of delusion,” and is the root of samsara.
▪ If you are able to recognize the true nature of the thought as soon as it arises, and leave it alone without any follow-up, then whatever thoughts arise all automatically dissolve back into the vast expanse of Rigpa and are liberated.
Clearly this takes a lifetime of practice to understand and realize the full richness and majesty of these four profound yet simple points, and here I can only give you a taste of the vastness of what is meditation in Dzogchen.
…
Dzogchen meditation is subtly powerful in dealing with the arisings of the mind, and has a unique perspective on them. All the risings are seen in their true nature, not as separate from Rigpa, and not as antagonistic to it, but actually as none other–and this is very important–than its “self-radiance,” the manifestation of its very energy.
Say you find yourself in a deep state of stillness; often it does not last very long and a thought or a movement always arises, like a wave in the ocean. Don’t reject the movement or particulary embrace the stillness, but continue the flow of your pure presence. The pervasive, peaceful state of your meditation is the Rigpa itself, and all risings are none other than this Rigpa’s self-radiance. This is the heart and the basis of Dzogchen practice. One way to imagine this is as if you were riding on the sun’s rays back to the sun: ….
Of couse there are rough as well as gentle waves in the ocean; strong emotions come, like anger, desire, jealousy. The real practitioner recognizes them not as a disturbance or obstacle, but as a great opportunity. The fact that you react to arisings such as these with habitual tendencies of attachment and aversion is a sign not only that you are distracted, but also that you do not have the recognition and have lost the ground of Rigpa. To react to emotions in this way empowers them and binds us even tighter in the chains of delusion. The great secret of Dzogchen is to see right through them as soon as they arise, to what they really are: the vivid and electric manifestation of the energy of Rigpa itself. As you gradually learn to do this, even the most turbulent emotions fail to seize hold of you and dissolve, as wild waves rise and rear and sink back into the calm of the ocean.
The practitioner discovers–and this is a revolutionary insight, whose subtlety and power cannot be overestimated–that not only do violent emotions not necessarily sweep you away and drag you back into the whirlpools of your own neuroses, they can actually be used to deepen, embolden, invigorate, and strengthen the Rigpa. The tempestuous energy becomes raw food of the awakened energy of Rigpa. The stronger and more flaming the emotion, the more Rigpa is strengthened.”
― Sogyal Rinpoche, quote from The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying
“I am a Gordian knot. Don't unravel, just slice.”
― Orson Scott Card, quote from Ender in Exile
“I want to believe there's a God. Because I sure as hell know there's a devil.”
― Jodi Picoult, quote from Keeping Faith
“Let us in, let us in,' shrieked the wind. 'We're very, very hungry.”
― Cressida Cowell, quote from How to Train Your Dragon
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