I Really Didn't Think This Through: Tales from My So-Called Adult Life

Finishing a season of a TV show is like the most successful thing I have done lately.

We tend to forget that other people view us so differently from how we view ourselves. So take pride in who you are, who you love, what you love, and the intangible things you can't touch but still love.

In a world where we're taught to be one kind of perfect or another, sometimes seeing beauty in the imperfection is the best thing we can do.

There's always going to be someone out there who is doing better than you. There's also someone doing worse than you. It's an endless cycle of competition that's so unnecessary.

It's okay if things don't get better overnight. Sometimes change takes time. You're worth the investment.

We are with ourselves 24/7, and that's a lot of freaking time to spend with someone. Be nice, be kind, be gentle with yourself and others.

It's also a matter of seeing yourself as worthy of love and accepting all the different sides you have.

Because being an adult doesn’t automatically make you successful at interacting with other adults, especially when you’re brand-new at it. In fact, a lot of us are really, really bad at it. Because there is no officially sanctioned training guide or seminar, figuring out how to be an adult is done through trial and error. Yeah, it’s embarrassing;

Feeling wholly and completely understood by people who don't know you personally is a very powerful thing. Oftentimes through songs, books, and movies, we are reminded that our feelings are universal and that we're not alone in this life. Everyone has their own thing that speaks down to the depths of their soul, soothes them, and picks up their broken pieces on bad days. It's amazing to feel so connected from such a distance.

And it should be celebrated that you found something to keep you going, no matter what it is. Because the more you go, the more things fall into place. Whatever your medium is, it's another great piece in the puzzle of moving forward.

a step forward is good, a step backward isn’t the end of the world, and keeping both feet on the ground is great—sometimes that’s actual progress. You’ve got this, no matter what your mom’s friend says about her own kids.

it can suck a lot when you feel you aren’t as good because getting out of that mindset requires you to appreciate all the things you’ve done so far! Which, sometimes, is not as much as you would have liked.

This depression is never-ending and I’m upset for no reason and sometimes television is the only thing that makes sense.

By the time you've heard a ''just be positive, do yoga, eat healthy'' speech for the hundredth time, you're ready to whack that person with yoga mat or shove some kale in their mouth to get them to shut up.

Đúng, biết nghĩ cho người khác là tốt, nhưng khi bạn liên tục chịu tổn thương, thì bạn đương nhiên phải quan tâm đến bản thân và cảm xúc của mình chứ. Bạn có thể tha thứ bất cứ khi nào bạn cảm thấy sẵn sàng. Tất nhiên là chỉ khi bạn thực sự muốn thế. Không ai có quyền quyết định, trừ bạn.

Sometimes things felt bleak and bad, but I was still there. And I kept staying there. And sometimes that's all we can really hope for – the feeling of staying afloat. When things really suck, staying afloat seems pretty good. Sometimes it's okay to celebrate just being here, because that in itself is an accomplishment.

I did everything I could to distract myself from how awful I felt. Some days were tolerable, and some were even okay. But I couldn't get rid of the way I was feeling. And the more I ignored it, the deeper it sank.

Anxiety is a powerful thing, and when it decides to strike, it can take many different, often demoralizing forms. Suddenly the only thing you can focus on is the absolute, fundamental sense of dread and upset storming inside you.

For those unfamiliar with anxiety attacks, it's kind of like being shoved off a ledge without being able to scream.

Because sometimes adult things are too scary, and you just deal with it the best you can.

Did it make you feel pretty good to achieve something, even if it was a tiny something? Hey, that's progress! And that's great!

Basically, what I'm trying to say is that you're okay. And sometimes just being okay is a great place to be.