Who’s That Girl?

He's an irrelevant person. Learn to spot irrelevant people. Don't expect someone who doesn't know who they are to care who you are.

You won't find someone who treats you as you should be treated until you start to believe you are worth the ones you want, the ones who aren't asking you to do any work. Find the man who appreciates you at your best, not one who confirms your worst suspicions about yourself.

All those wasted years spent trying to get inconsequential people to like her. She never asked herself why she should like them.

The way I see it,’ Edie said, holding both their hands, as they looked at the water rushing over the rocks, ‘you get people who are important to you, for as long as you get them. You never know how long it will be. You have to accept it and make use of the time you have.

I think sometimes, shit things in life can’t be learned from, they just “are”. You have to live around them and with them. No one admits it, because it doesn’t sound inspiring if you put it over a picture of a sunset.

It was startling and humbling to realise how much time you could spend with people to whom you meant so little and vice versa

You need people to like you. Stop caring so much. It doesn’t matter.

And the whole constant mantra about how 'long-term relationships are hard work' and 'everything has its ups and downs' and 'you're going to be annoyed by their toenails' and 'stick with it' and 'the grass only looks greener' and so on. It's actually very hard to tell when you should split up with someone. All I knew was I was waking up every morning thinking this can't be it, until death. When your relationship is making you feel life's too long, something's gone awry.

Giving no fucks was a superpower.

Everyone's interesting," Elliot said. "Acting 101." - "They're definitely not. Advertising 202.

I read an analogy of depression,’ Meg said, as they steadied, wiping under her eyes with a floppy cuff. ‘About how killing yourself is like jumping out of a tall building when it’s on fire. You don’t want to jump out, but bit by bit, it becomes impossible not to because you’re so scared and in so much pain. No one thinks anyone jumping out of a building on fire wants to do it.

No one was the villain of their own story in their own mind,

Don’t waste the young and beautiful years being anxious, darling. There’s plenty of old and ugly ones coming.

Saudade,’ Edie said. ‘What?’ Elliot half-shouted over the din, not unreasonably. ‘A Portuguese word that has no direct translation, it means “a profound longing for something or someone that is absent and might never return”.

You couldn’t put a burden down if you didn’t admit to yourself you were carrying it

At least when I don’t like myself, I still know who I am. You have a face for every occasion. When you’re on your own, you must disappear. Who are you, when no one’s looking?

You have to let it go, or you’ll go mad. Trust me on this. Keep these words in your head: Those who know me better, know better.

only beat yourself up about the harm you did that you meant to do. That’s on you. The harm you did by accident, feel bad but let it go, ultimately it’s not on you.

One of the hardest things to explain to a child is why adulthood involved doing so many things you knew you definitely didn’t want to do.

It’s actually very hard to tell when you should split up with someone. All I knew was I was waking up every morning thinking this can’t be it, until death. When your relationship is making you feel life’s too long, something’s gone awry.

It was obvious Elliot wasn't keen on her, in that way. She'd mistaken Fraser's meaning, and cringed slightly. 'Besotted'—you could besot in a completely sexless way, right? She'd once been besotted with her gerbils.

All these wasted years spent trying to get inconsequential people to like her. She never asked herself why she should like them.

Society as we know it is fucked,’ Hannah said, noisily squirting the plastic ketchup bottle on to her chips. ‘Everyone pretends their life is great online. It’s lies by omission. It’s just one big lie by omission. It makes people feel constantly inadequate and anxious and envious. All our lives are a managed mess but look online and you get advertising.

Edie and he hugged hello. ‘How are you?’ she said. ‘Fucking awful. You?’ ‘Shite,’ Edie laughed. ‘Same here, but we have booze,’ Hannah said.

Lucie was someone you wouldn’t choose as your best friend unless there’d been a global pandemic extinction event,

once defined a true friend as ‘someone you’d let see you in a vomit-stained dressing gown’,

Don’t expect someone who doesn’t know who they are to care who you are.

Tal y como yo lo veo, tienes a la gente que es importante para ti durante un período determinado. Nunca sabes cuánto será. Debes aceptarlo y usar el tiempo que se te da. No [la tuvimos] durante mucho tiempo, pero eso no significa que no marcara una inmensa diferencia para nosotros. La queríamos y nos quería. Nunca la olvidaremos. Todavía la queremos.