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The Nanny Diaries

by Emma McLaughlin

The Nanny Diaries is a 2002 debut novel by Emma McLaughlin and Nicola Kraus, written from the point of view of a young woman known only as Nanny (or Nan), a New York college student who takes a job caring for Grayer, the… more

First published 2002 · 306 pages · English

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Quotes from the Book

if you'e going to do something, darling, then do it all the way.
There are people in this home- human beings- drowning in their desire for you to look them in the eye. You made this family. And all you have to do is show up and like them. It's called 're-la-ting.' So get over whatever totally-absent-buying-your affection parenting that you received and get here, man- because this is your LIFE and you're just pissing it away!
I pause to catch my breath, looking around at all the toys he's paid for and never once enjoyed with his son.
And he doesn't care what you're wearing or what you've brought him. He just wants you there. Wanting him. And time is running out. He won't love you unconditionally that much longer. And soon he won't love you at all.
if you're going to do something darling, then do it all the way\ uncoordinated and enthusiastic. a lethal combination
But there is so much you can do with five children in a dark parking lot before you want to sell them.
There are people─ in your home─ human beings─ drowning in their desire for you to look them in the eye. You made this family. And all you have to do is to show up and like them. It's called 'relating'. So get over whatever totally-absent-buying-your-affection parenting that you received and get here, man─ because this is your LIFE and you're just pissing it away.

Did you know?

  • The novel was co-written by Emma McLaughlin and Nicola Kraus, who met as students at New York University's Gallatin School of Individualized Study.
  • Both authors had worked as nannies for roughly thirty wealthy Upper East Side families before writing the book.
  • The narrator is known to the reader only as Nanny or Nan, never given a first name in ordinary use.
  • The book sold more than two million copies and was translated into at least thirteen languages.
  • A 2007 film adaptation starred Scarlett Johansson, Laura Linney, and Paul Giamatti.
  • The authors wrote a 2010 sequel, Nanny Returns, set twelve years after the original.

About Emma McLaughlin

Emma McLaughlin is an American author who, with her longtime writing partner Nicola Kraus, co-wrote The Nanny Diaries; the two met while students at New York University and had both worked as nannies for wealthy Manhattan families.

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About the book

The Nanny Diaries is a 2002 debut novel by Emma McLaughlin and Nicola Kraus, written from the point of view of a young woman known only as Nanny (or Nan), a New York college student who takes a job caring for Grayer, the four-year-old son of the wealthy X family on Manhattan's Upper East Side. As Grayer's parents pursue their own interests, including Mr. X's extramarital affairs, Nanny becomes the boy's de facto mother while Mrs. X grows ever more demanding, piling on tasks that have little to do with childcare. The story runs from fall through spring and ends with Nanny being abruptly fired during the family's vacation in Nantucket.

At its heart the book is a sharp social satire of privileged Manhattan society seen through the eyes of the people paid to raise its children. McLaughlin and Kraus drew directly on their own experience, having worked as nannies for roughly thirty affluent families, and they use Nanny's insider vantage to skewer the materialism, idleness, and emotional neglect of the X household, contrasting the parents' indifference with the genuine attachment Nanny feels for Grayer.

A word-of-mouth phenomenon, The Nanny Diaries became a major bestseller, selling more than two million copies and being translated into more than a dozen languages. It was adapted into a 2007 film starring Scarlett Johansson, Laura Linney, and Paul Giamatti, and the authors returned to the characters in a 2010 sequel, Nanny Returns, set twelve years later.

Key characters

  • Nanny (Nan)College student hired to care for Grayer, who narrates the novel
  • Grayer XThe neglected four-year-old boy Nanny looks after
  • Mrs. XGrayer's self-centered mother and Nanny's demanding employer
  • Mr. XGrayer's largely absent father, who repeatedly cheats on his wife
  • Harvard Hottie (HH)A young man in the X's building who becomes Nanny's love interest

Book details

First published
2002
Length
306 pages
Reading time
4 hours
Genre
Fiction
Goodreads rating
3.47 (391k ratings)

Series & reading order

  1. 1 The Nanny Diaries
  2. 2 Nanny Returns

Movie & TV adaptations

  • IMDb
    The Nanny Diaries 2007

    Film starring Scarlett Johansson, Laura Linney, and Paul Giamatti

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