Quotes from Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead

“What would you do if you weren't afraid?”
― Sheryl Sandberg, quote from Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead

“When looking for a life partner, my advice to women is date all of them: the bad boys, the cool boys, the commitment-phobic boys, the crazy boys. But do not marry them. The things that make the bad boys sexy do not make them good husbands. When it comes time to settle down, find someone who wants an equal partner. Someone who thinks women should be smart, opinionated and ambitious. Someone who values fairness and expects or, even better, wants to do his share in the home. These men exist and, trust me, over time, nothing is sexier.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, quote from Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead

“In the future, there will be no female leaders. There will just be leaders.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, quote from Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead

“We cannot change what we are not aware of, and once we are aware, we cannot help but change.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, quote from Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead

“Leadership is about making others better as a result of your presence and making sure that impact lasts in your absence."
(Harvard Business School definition of leadership)”
― Sheryl Sandberg, quote from Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead

“There is no perfect fit when you're looking for the next big thing to do. You have to take opportunities and make an opportunity fit for you, rather than the other way around. The ability to learn is the most important quality a leader can have.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, quote from Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead

“Careers are a jungle gym, not a ladder.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, quote from Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead

“There's a special place in hell for women who don't help other women.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, quote from Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead

“Women need to shift from thinking "I'm not ready to do that" to thinking "I want to do that- and I'll learn by doing it.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, quote from Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead

“Fortune does favor the bold and you'll never know what you're capable of if you don't try.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, quote from Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead

“I hope you find true meaning, contentment, and passion in your life. I hope you navigate the difficult times and come out with greater strength and resolve. I hope you find whatever balance you seek with your eyes wide open. And I hope that you - yes, you - have the ambition to lean in to your career and run the world. Because the world needs you to change it.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, quote from Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead

“But the upside of painful knowledge is so much greater than the downside of blissful ignorance.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, quote from Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead

“Success and likeability are positively correlated for men and negatively for women. When a man is successful, he is liked by both men and women. When a woman is successful, people of both genders like her less.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, quote from Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead

“I have never met a woman, or man, who stated emphatically, "Yes, I have it all.'" Because no matter what any of us has—and how grateful we are for what we have—no one has it all.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, quote from Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead

“Motivation comes from working on things we care about. It also comes from working with people we care about.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, quote from Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead

“She explained that many people, but especially women, feel fraudulent when they are praised for their accomplishments. Instead of feeling worthy of recognition, they feel undeserving and guilty, as if a mistake has been made. Despite being high achievers, even experts in their fields, women can't seem to shake the sense that it is only a matter of time until they are found out for who they really are- impostors with limited skills or abilities.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, quote from Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead

“I realized that searching for a mentor has become the professional equivalent of waiting for Prince Charming. We all grew up on the fairy tale "Sleeping Beauty," which instructs young women that if they just wait for their prince to arrive, they will be kissed and whisked away on a white horse to live happily ever after. Now young women are told that if they can just find the right mentor, they will be pushed up the ladder and whisked away to the corner office to live happily ever after. Once again, we are teaching women to be too dependent on others.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, quote from Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead

“When woman work outside the home and share breadwinning duties, couples are more likely to stay together. In fact, the risk of divorce reduces by about half when a wife earns half the income and a husband does half the housework.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, quote from Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead

“We must raise both the ceiling and the floor.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, quote from Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead

“A truly equal world would be one where women ran half our countries and companies and men ran half our homes.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, quote from Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead

“we compromise our career goals to make room for partners and children who may not even exist yet”
― Sheryl Sandberg, quote from Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead

“Real change will come when powerful women are less of an exception. It is easy to dislike senior women because there are so few.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, quote from Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead

“The gender stereotypes introduced in childhood are reinforced throughout our lives and become self-fulfilling prophesies. Most leadership positions are held by men, so women don't expect to achieve them, and that becomes one of the reasons they don't.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, quote from Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead

“Social gains are never handed out. They must be seized.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, quote from Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead

“The promise of equality is not the same as true equality.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, quote from Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead

“The more women help one another, the more we help ourselves. Acting like a coalition truly does produce results.

Any coalition of support must also include men, many of whom care about gender inequality as much as women do.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, quote from Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead

“Our culture needs to find a robust image of female success that is first, not male, and second, not a white woman on the phone, holding a crying baby,”
― Sheryl Sandberg, quote from Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead

“Aggressive and hard-charging women violate unwritten rules about acceptable social conduct. Men are continually applauded for being ambitious and powerful and successful, but women who display these same traits often pay a social penalty. Female accomplishments come at a cost.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, quote from Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead

“And in situations where a man and a woman each receive negative feedback, the woman's self-confidence and self-esteem drop to a much greater degree. The internalization of failure and the insecurity it breeds hurt future performance, so this pattern has serious long-term consequences.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, quote from Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead

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