Quotes from Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior

“Emotions are built on layers. Beneath hatred is usually anger; beneath anger is frustration; beneath frustration is hurt; beneath hurt is fear. If you keep expressing your feelings, you will generally move through them in that order. What begins with “I hate you” culminates in “I’m scared. I don’t want to lose you, and I don’t know what to do about it.”
― Mark Goulston, quote from Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior

“You know the old saying, “If you can’t stand the heat, get out of the kitchen.” Well, if you always get out as soon as the kitchen gets hot, your life will end up half-baked.”
― Mark Goulston, quote from Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior

“man should never be ashamed to own he has been in the wrong, which is but saying, in other words, that he is wiser today than he was yesterday.” —ALEXANDER POPE”
― Mark Goulston, quote from Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior

“You cannot shake hands with a clenched fist.” —INDIRA GANDHI”
― Mark Goulston, quote from Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior

“Both partners describe one of their own character flaws. Humility resolves self-righteousness.”
― Mark Goulston, quote from Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior

“Both partners share a quality of the other person that they admire. Admiration resolves disappointment. Both partners express appreciation for something that the other one did. Gratitude resolves resentment. Both partners apologize, without excuses, for something they did to hurt the other person. Remorse resolves hurt.”
― Mark Goulston, quote from Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior

“All the beautiful sentiments in the world weigh less than a simple lonely action.”
― Mark Goulston, quote from Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior

“But the goal is not to replace what cannot be replaced, or duplicate what cannot be duplicated, but simply to create opportunities for new memories. One”
― Mark Goulston, quote from Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior

“That is what learning is. You suddenly understand something you’ve understood all your life, but in a new way.” —DORIS LESSING Ordinary”
― Mark Goulston, quote from Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior

“Those who are comfortable taking chances know that the best way to grow is to reach beyond their grasp. Their sense of direction comes from the heart. They don’t shy away from surprise; they might even seek it out. And they seldom die with regrets. In the end we regret not what we have done but what we have not done.”
― Mark Goulston, quote from Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior

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“Yesterday was a memory. Today was a hope.”
― Karen Marie Moning, quote from Into the Dreaming

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― Joseph Bédier, quote from The Romance of Tristan and Iseult

“ОМОНИМИЧЕН КАЛАМБУР
Време (къде ли се време?) за обед. От качилите (наистина бяха откачили те!) се пътници автобусът беше препълнен. Видях сред тези хора (видях с ред тези хора или видях сред тез и хора, или видях с ред тез и хора???) нещо интересно – много забавен младеж (много за бавен млад еж?): шия като жираф, на главата (аз ли шия като жираф нагла вата?) – шапка и плитка (колко плитка?) на шапката. Почва (на каква почва?) този да се кара на един католик отзад (като лик отзад?), че го ръга като дъска за гладене (а нима това дъска за гладен е?). Но като забеляза (за беля за какво?) свободно място, отиде да търси подслон (но какво да търси под слон?).
Не помня по календар (по-кален дар!) коя дата беше, но след това (беше ли с лед това?) пак видях споменатото (кой спомена тато?) момче на гара (и кой видя нагара?) Сен Лазар. Негов другар (не го в друг ар слагайте!) гореше (защо ли го реше?) от желание да му даде съвет относно (как да го разбираме това “от нос, но…”?) едно копче.”
― Raymond Queneau, quote from Exercises in Style

“So I'd stabbed needles into my eyes and pretended not to see certain things. Bad things. Only by turning my back on certain thing, I ended up turning my back on my dearest friend, a betrayal I never intended.
Or so I told myself. That was the problem with lying to yourself. Sometimes you got too good.”
― Lauren Myracle, quote from Shine

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― Christopher Daniel Mechling, quote from Peter: The Untold True Story

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