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“People listen better if they feel that you have understood them. They tend to think that those who understand them are intelligent and sympathetic people whose own opinions may be worth listening to. So if you want the other side to appreciate your interests, begin by demonstrating that you appreciate theirs.”
― quote from Getting to Yes: Negotiating an Agreement Without Giving In
“The more extreme the opening positions and the smaller the concessions, the more time and effort it will take to discover whether or not agreement is possible.”
― quote from Getting to Yes: Negotiating an Agreement Without Giving In
“Any method of negotiation may be fairly judged by three criteria: It should produce a wise agreement if agreement is possible. It should be efficient. And it should improve or at least not damage the relationship between the parties.”
― quote from Getting to Yes: Negotiating an Agreement Without Giving In
“The ability to see the situation as the other side sees it, as difficult as it may be, is one of the most important skills a negotiator can possess.”
― quote from Getting to Yes: Negotiating an Agreement Without Giving In
“If you want someone to listen and understand your reasoning, give your interests and reasoning first and your conclusions or proposals later. Tell”
― quote from Getting to Yes: Negotiating an Agreement Without Giving In
“As useful as looking for objective reality can be, it is ultimately the reality as each side sees it that constitutes the problem in a negotiation and opens the way to a solution.”
― quote from Getting to Yes: Negotiating an Agreement Without Giving In
“The most powerful interests are basic human needs. In searching for the basic interests behind a declared position, look particularly for those bedrock concerns that motivate all people. If you can take care of such basic needs, you increase the chance both of reaching agreement and, if an agreement is reached, of the other side’s keeping to it. Basic human needs include: security economic well-being a sense of belonging recognition control over one’s life As fundamental as they are, basic human needs are easy to overlook. In many negotiations, we tend to think that the only interest involved is money. Yet even in a negotiation over a monetary figure, such as the amount of alimony to be specified in a separation agreement, much more can be involved.”
― quote from Getting to Yes: Negotiating an Agreement Without Giving In
“THE METHOD 2. Separate the People from the Problem 3. Focus on Interests, Not Positions 4. Invent Options for Mutual Gain 5. Insist on Using Objective Criteria”
― quote from Getting to Yes: Negotiating an Agreement Without Giving In
“For more interesting examples from the Law of the Sea negotiations, see James K. Sebenius, Negotiating the Law of the Sea: Lessons in the Art and Science of Reaching Agreement (Harvard University Press, 1984).”
― quote from Getting to Yes: Negotiating an Agreement Without Giving In
“For more on the core concerns and how to manage them in negotiation, see Roger Fisher and Daniel Shapiro, Beyond Reason: Using Emotions As You Negotiate (Penguin, 2006).”
― quote from Getting to Yes: Negotiating an Agreement Without Giving In
“Negotiation, Information Technology, and the Problem of the Faceless Other,” in Leigh L. Thompson, editor, Negotiation Theory and Research (Psychology Press, 2006).”
― quote from Getting to Yes: Negotiating an Agreement Without Giving In
“systematic tools for getting results, whether in business or international diplomacy, summed up in Beyond Machiavelli and Getting It DONE;”
― quote from Getting to Yes: Negotiating an Agreement Without Giving In
“The second negotiation concerns how you will negotiate the substantive question: by soft positional bargaining, by hard positional bargaining, or by some other method. This second negotiation is a game about a game—a “meta-game.” Each move you make within a negotiation is not only a move that deals with rent, salary, or other substantive questions; it also helps structure the rules of the game you are playing. Your move may serve to keep the negotiations within an ongoing mode, or it may constitute a game-changing move.”
― quote from Getting to Yes: Negotiating an Agreement Without Giving In
“The more you clarify your position and defend it against attack, the more committed you become to it. The”
― quote from Getting to Yes: Negotiating an Agreement Without Giving In
“the more attention that is paid to positions, the less attention is devoted to meeting the underlying concerns of the parties.”
― quote from Getting to Yes: Negotiating an Agreement Without Giving In
“Whether a negotiation concerns a contract, a family quarrel, or a peace settlement among nations, people routinely engage in positional bargaining. Each side takes a position, argues for it, and makes concessions to reach a compromise.”
― quote from Getting to Yes: Negotiating an Agreement Without Giving In
“The game of negotiation takes place at two levels. At one level, negotiation addresses the substance; at another, it focuses—usually implicitly—on the procedure for dealing with the substance.”
― quote from Getting to Yes: Negotiating an Agreement Without Giving In
“In a mental hospital, we do not want psychotic doctors.”
― quote from Getting to Yes: Negotiating an Agreement Without Giving In
“An open mind is not an empty one.”
― quote from Getting to Yes: Negotiating an Agreement Without Giving In
“Meditate. Neuroscientists have found that monks who spend years meditating actually grow their left prefrontal cortex, the part of the brain most responsible for feeling happy. But don’t worry, you don’t have to spend years in sequestered, celibate silence to experience a boost. Take just five minutes each day to watch your breath go in and out.”
― Shawn Achor, quote from The Happiness Advantage: The Seven Principles of Positive Psychology That Fuel Success and Performance at Work
“She was only fifteen! What is the matter with these kids today? Can't they wait to have sex until they get their driver's license and can go somewhere?”
― Gregg Olsen, quote from Envy
“Wisdom demands a new orientation of science and technology toward the organic, the gentle, the elegant and beautiful.”
― Ernst F. Schumacher, quote from Small Is Beautiful: Economics as if People Mattered
“You owe me."
"What do I owe you? All the things I gave you. How I took care of you. Money, information...pleasure. I denied you nothing. If I could give it to you, I did."
"You gave me things that cost you nothing. It certainly didn't seem to be a hardship to fuck me.”
― Caroline Hanson, quote from Love Is Mortal
“If you're not scared when you are writing you're not working hard enough. You'll be afraid but you have to keep going.”
― M. Molly Backes, quote from The Princesses of Iowa
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