Her Fearful Symmetry
Quotes from the Book
Don't you think it's better to be extremely happy for a short while, even if you lose it, than to be just okay for your whole life?
Love the world and yourself in it, move through it as though it offers no resistance, as though the world is your natural element.
I won't ever leave you, even though you're always leaving me.
It's hard being left behind. (...) It's hard to be the one who stays.
It’s dark now and I am very tired. I love you, always. Time is nothing.
Why is love intensified by absence?
Time is priceless, but it’s Free. You can't own it, you can use it. You can spend it. But you can't keep it. Once you've lost it you can never get it back.
We laugh and laugh, and nothing can ever be sad, no one can be lost, or dead, or far away: right now we are here, and nothing can mar our perfection, or steal the joy of this perfect moment.
Sleep is my lover now, my forgetting, my opiate, my oblivion.
Maybe I'm dreaming you. Maybe you're dreaming me; maybe we only exist in each other's dreams and every morning when we wake up we forget all about each other.
I never understood why Clark Kent was so hell bent on keeping Lois Lane in the dark.
I go to sleep alone, and wake up alone. I take walks. I work until I'm tired. I watch the wind play with the trash that's been under the snow all winter. Everything seems simple until you think about it. Why is love intensified by abscence?
I'm sorry. I didn't know you were coming or I'd have cleaned up a little more. My life, I mean, not just the apartment.
Long ago, men went to sea, and women waited for them, standing on the edge of the water, scanning the horizon for the tiny ship. Now I wait for Henry. He vanishes unwillingly, without warning. I wait for him. Each moment that I wait feels like a year, an eternity. Each moment is as slow and transparent as glass. Through each moment I can see infinite moments lined up, waiting. Why has he gone where I cannot follow?
I wanted someone to love who would stay: stay and be there, always.
Think for a minute, darling: in fairy tales it's always the children who have the fine adventures. The mothers have to stay at home and wait for the children to fly in the window.
I wish for a moment that time would lift me out of this day, and into some more benign one. But then I feel guilty for wanting to avoid the sadness; dead people need us to remember them, even if it eats us, even if all we can do is say "I'm sorry" until it is as meaningless air.
I am suddenly comsumed by nostalgia for the little girl who was me, who loved the fields and believed in God, who spent winter days home sick from school reading Nancy Drew and sucking menthol cough drops, who could keep a secret.
Chaos is more freedom; in fact, total freedom. But no meaning. I want to be free to act, and I also want my actions to mean something.
But you make me happy. It's living up to being happy that's the difficult part.
I'm living under water. Everything seems slow and far away. I know there's a world up there, a sunlit quick world where time runs like dry sand through an hourglass, but down here, where I am, air and sound and time and feeling are thick and dense.
Right now we are here, and nothing can mar our perfection, or steal the joy of this perfect moment.
Do you ever miss him? Every day. Every minute. Every minute, she says. Yes, it's that way, isn't it?
I place my hands over her ears and tip her head back, and kiss her, and try to put my heart into hers, for safekeeping, in case I lose it again.
I hate to be where she is not, when she is not. And yet, I am always going. - Henry deTamble
I love. I have loved. I will love.
The compelling thing about making art - or making anything, I suppose - is the moment when the vaporous, insubstantial idea becomes a solid there, a thing, a substance in a world of substances.
Sometimes I'm happy when he's gone, but I'm always happy when he returns. -Clare
that's what I love you for: your inability to perceive all my hideous flaws
When the woman you live with is an artist, every day is a surprise.
Did you know?
- The novel was Audrey Niffenegger's debut work of fiction.
- It was originally published by the independent press MacAdam/Cage.
- The story is told in alternating first-person narration by Henry and Clare.
- Henry's involuntary time travel is attributed to a genetic condition the novel calls Chrono-Impairment.
- The book was shortlisted for the Arthur C. Clarke Award in 2005.
- It was adapted into a 2009 feature film starring Rachel McAdams and Eric Bana.
About Audrey Niffenegger
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Her Fearful Symmetry
About the book
The Time Traveler's Wife, Audrey Niffenegger's 2003 debut novel, tells the story of Henry DeTamble, a Chicago librarian with a genetic disorder that causes him to involuntarily travel through time, and Clare Abshire, the artist he loves. Told in alternating first-person perspectives, the narrative follows their relationship out of chronological order: Henry visits Clare throughout her childhood, though from his own shifting timeline they meet as adults and marry. Because neither can control when or where Henry disappears, the couple must build a life around his unpredictable absences.
At its heart the book is a meditation on love, loss, and the experience of waiting. Niffenegger has described its concerns as love, death, and time, and the story dwells on longing, the ache of being the one left behind, and the effort of holding a relationship together across separations neither partner chose. Blending literary fiction with a speculative premise, it treats time travel less as science fiction spectacle than as a metaphor for the ways love endures across distance and change.
The novel became a major international bestseller and a book-club favorite, and it won the British Book Award for Popular Fiction and the Exclusive Books Boeke Prize. Its wide reach led to a 2009 feature film and a later HBO television series, cementing its place as one of the most popular literary romances of the 2000s.
Key characters
- Henry DeTambleA Chicago librarian who involuntarily travels through time
- Clare AbshireAn artist who loves Henry and waits through his absences
- AlbaHenry and Clare's daughter, who also time travels but with some control
Book details
- First published
- 2003
- Length
- 546 pages
- Reading time
- 33 hours
- Author
- Audrey Niffenegger
- Genre
- Fiction
- Goodreads rating
- 4.00 (1.9M ratings) →
- First line
- “It's hard being left behind.”
Movie & TV adaptations
- IMDb
- IMDb
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