Quotes from Lying on the Couch

Irvin D. Yalom ·  384 pages

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“Only the wounded healer can truly heal. (97)”
― Irvin D. Yalom, quote from Lying on the Couch


“What? 'Borderline patients play games'? That what you said? Ernest, you'll never be a real therapist if you think like that. That's exactly what I meant earlier when I talked about the dangers of diagnosis. There are borderlines and there are borderlines. Labels do violence to people. You can't treat the label; you have to treat the person behind the label. (17)”
― Irvin D. Yalom, quote from Lying on the Couch


“He had learned long ago that, in general, the easier it was for anxious patients to reach him, the less likely they were to call. (107)”
― Irvin D. Yalom, quote from Lying on the Couch


“Nonetheless, the past is part of your present consciousness—it forms the spectacles through which you experience the present.”
― Irvin D. Yalom, quote from Lying on the Couch


“چطور می توان مردی را به چنگ آورد؟
سئله ساده ایه، فقط باید به چشمان یک مرد خیره شد و چند ثانیه صبر کرد. همین!”
― Irvin D. Yalom, quote from Lying on the Couch



“این رویاها نظر فروید را در این باره که عملکرد اولیه رویاها حفظ خواب است اثبات می کرد. در این نمونه، فکر وحشتناک سوزاندن جسد به چیزی ملایم تر و دلپذیرتر تبدیل شده است: چهره دوست داشتنی و جذاب خرس آتش نشان. ولی این رویاها تنها تا حدودی موفق بود: هرچند باعث شده بود که ارنست خوابش را ادامه دهد اضطراب مرگ کل رویایش را در ترس فروبرد.”
― Irvin D. Yalom, quote from Lying on the Couch


“گذشته بخشی از شرایط امروزته. گذشته برات عینکی درست می کنه که باهاش زمان حال رو تجربه می کنی.”
― Irvin D. Yalom, quote from Lying on the Couch


“یه مرد خوش قیافه فقیر با 1دلار و 50سنت برات یه کاپوچینو می خره.”
― Irvin D. Yalom, quote from Lying on the Couch


“Seymour a Ernest: "A veces el destino nos coloca en una posición dónde lo correcto resulta equivocado”
― Irvin D. Yalom, quote from Lying on the Couch


About the author

Irvin D. Yalom
Born place: in Washington DC, The United States
Born date June 13, 1931
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