Second Helpings
Quotes from the Book
I think worrying will soothe me, but it never does. There weren’t enough hours in the day to do all the worrying I needed to do. I would wake up worried, then stay worried throughout the day and I’d still have worrying undone at the end of the day.
My mother's hopes for me were that I would always be happy and thin. My hope for her was that she would never leave me.
It's always best when meeting new people to assume that they have a front-of-house life and a backstage life.
Everyone always claims to hate small talk, but does nothing to stop it whilst it’s going on.
But, if we are to get anywhere in this world, we must, at some point, learn to sever the ties between applause and self-worth.
I’ve carried this perfectionism into my adult life. There’s a long list of things I never did or allowed to happen, all because I wasn’t ready. I always thought I needed to change first, before living. I confused longing with living. I’ve missed out on things I care about, all because I didn’t feel ready to share myself. It was all a defence against intimacy, a very effective one, because it was lonely
When the brain tumour was diagnosed, I thought, The unvierse isn't done with us yet. So this is what life is really like: a series of terrible events? I can't believe I was so in the dark for so long. The body is capable of betrayal at any given moment. But then I would ask myself: Did someone promise me that it was going to be all good? And the answer would be, No, no one did. So, then, where did I get this silly notion from that life was supposed to be all good and well?
I think the house of death has but one door, but it's the windows I don't like
To grow up is to lose everything once
Death requires faith, I suppose, because even with the luxury of time to prepare, it still seems far-fetched and absurd. All you can do is wash your face and get all the relevant documents in order
Everyone has the right to own a doll that looks like them.
I find myself absorbing your traits. I eat the foods you like and I use your favourite words. I say our jokes to myself. And I've come up with some new ones for us too.
If I lived in a village now, which I don't, I'd probably be the witch.
There will be people after me who will still be grieving these people. I don't have to do all of it.
I think it was me who once said, "To grow up is to lose everything once.
I think about the fact that my fridge has a better energy rating than me.
Let’s all eat our feelings instead of expressing them.
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About Katy Wix
About the book
Twenty-one snapshots of a life - some staccato, raw and shocking, some expansive, meditative, and profound, underpinned with moments of startling humour that shatter the darkness - all beginning with a single memory. A memory of cake.
The sickly royal icing marked the moment Katy found her voice. The madeira cake was the sun her group therapy sessions orbited. The 'missing cake' from a lost holiday has never let go. The Bara brith eaten in hospital after a life-altering car crash was as tough as the metal that hit her. The supermarket rock cake was where she 'practised wanting'.
Shocking, raw, darkly funny and deeply humane, Katy Wix's exploration of trauma, grief, addiction, love, loss, memory and hope is truly unforgettable.
Book details
- First published
- 2021
- Author
- Katy Wix
- Genre
- Nonfiction
- Goodreads rating
- 4.12 (2k ratings)
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