Quotes from An Untamed State

Roxane Gay ·  368 pages

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“I am not easy to love but I am well loved. I try to love well in return.”
― Roxane Gay, quote from An Untamed State


“When he finished talking, I said, “Your mother did not deserve the unwanted attentions of a man like my father.” I said, “I did not deserve the unwanted attentions of a man like you. It is often women who pay the price for what men want.”
― Roxane Gay, quote from An Untamed State


“Once upon a time, my life was a fairy tale and then I was stolen from everything I’ve ever loved. There was no happily ever after. After days of dying, I was dead.”
― Roxane Gay, quote from An Untamed State


“because sometimes, to find home, you must first go farther afield.”
― Roxane Gay, quote from An Untamed State


“My mother has often told me there are some things you cannot tell a man who loves you, things he cannot handle knowing.”
― Roxane Gay, quote from An Untamed State



“It is an amazing thing,” my father once told me after Christophe was born, “how much a child loves a parent. That kind of love terrifies me.”
― Roxane Gay, quote from An Untamed State


“When I tried to push him away, he only held on to me more tightly. I have always appreciated how he never lets me go. I need that. My natural instinct is for flight and the safety of solitude.”
― Roxane Gay, quote from An Untamed State


“Kenbe fèm,” she said. Hold steady. Stay strong.”
― Roxane Gay, quote from An Untamed State


“She grabbed me and pulled me into a warm embrace. Just as quickly she pushed me away. She said, “Thank you for getting on my nerves for so long,” and I said, “You’re welcome, Lorraine.” We have talked three or four times a week ever since. She is family.”
― Roxane Gay, quote from An Untamed State


“My brother tried to sag his jeans until a stranger in the airport grabbed him by the ears and hitched his pants up to their proper place, sucking her teeth and shaking her head.”
― Roxane Gay, quote from An Untamed State



“People love a real tragedy when they think it cannot happen to them.”
― Roxane Gay, quote from An Untamed State


“I looked plenty close, Mireille, and saw many beautiful things but I also saw terrible things. I can’t pretend otherwise. You shouldn’t expect me to.” “Right,”
― Roxane Gay, quote from An Untamed State


“Mona is my best friend. Wherever she has gone, the whole of our lives, I have tried to follow. Michael and I moved to Miami because she was there. Wherever she is feels more like home.”
― Roxane Gay, quote from An Untamed State


“Girl children are not safe in a world where there are men. They need to learn to be strong. There”
― Roxane Gay, quote from An Untamed State


“I shouted, “This is not right,” knowing my words were useless. There’s no room for such distinctions in a country where too many people have to claw for what they need and still have nothing to hold. My”
― Roxane Gay, quote from An Untamed State



“Until that moment, Michael had not understood the vastness of the world and how small a place he held in it,”
― Roxane Gay, quote from An Untamed State


“my hands, my fingers quickly slicking with”
― Roxane Gay, quote from An Untamed State


“What is truly terrifying is the exact knowledge of what will come and being unable to save yourself from it. Grabbing”
― Roxane Gay, quote from An Untamed State


“I wanted to tell him I saw the exact same things he did, that this country was a lot for anyone to take, but it was easier to pretend I didn’t. Back”
― Roxane Gay, quote from An Untamed State


“How could I forget? We had a blast but we were surrounded by misery. That is hard to take. I’m just being honest.” “Michael,”
― Roxane Gay, quote from An Untamed State



“I don’t understand women like you,” he said, winding down. “You could have made things easier for yourself. Would it be so hard to play nice with me?” “I don’t understand men like you. You could have made things easier for me.” “You”
― Roxane Gay, quote from An Untamed State


“You people are all the same. You live in your grand homes looking down on us in the gutter. You think you control everything and can have anything.” “There”
― Roxane Gay, quote from An Untamed State


“I ran through these streets and thought, “This is a Haiti I have never seen or known.” It was a Haiti no one should have to know. I”
― Roxane Gay, quote from An Untamed State


“People like you always choose to absolve yourselves. You are complicit even if you do not actively contribute to the problem because you do nothing to solve it.” I”
― Roxane Gay, quote from An Untamed State


“I stared at the woman who betrayed me. I shouted, “How could you? We are both daughters of Dessalines.” She stood perfectly still. She did not blink. She did not look away with her dry eyes. By”
― Roxane Gay, quote from An Untamed State



“The mother kills one child to feed twelve, and one child to feed eleven, and one child to feed ten until she is left with but one child, whom she also slaughters because she too hungers. Finally, she returns to the middle of a cornfield where she slaughtered her other children, where the bones of their thirteen bodies lay. She slits her own throat because she cannot bear the burden of having done what needed to be done. After telling me this story, Elsa said, “A West Indian woman always faces such choices.” The”
― Roxane Gay, quote from An Untamed State


“I made my choice. There is nothing you cannot do when you are no one.”
― Roxane Gay, quote from An Untamed State


“It is often women who pay the price for what men want.”
― Roxane Gay, quote from An Untamed State


“And now, she knew her husband had lied to her. So many years, following him to so many places, and he had repaid her with such staggering deceit.”
― Roxane Gay, quote from An Untamed State


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“John felt grounded again. He remembered his favorite Bible story, the one about Peter getting out of the boat and walking on water. The big fisherman was walking along quite nicely until he looked at the waves and began to sink. As much as possible, John tried to live his life without looking at the waves. But when he did, when the lives of his grown children caused his faith to waver even a little, God always sent someone to illustrate the words of Christ: “You of little faith . . . why did you doubt?” John felt certain that in this, his most trying season yet, the Lord had sent Pastor Mark to fill that role. It was a certainty that kept his eyes where they belonged—off the waves and straight ahead to the outstretched arms of Jesus.”
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“There is, in short, no great idea that stupidity could not put to its own uses [....] The truth by comparison, has only one appearance and only one path, and is always at a disadvantage.”
― Robert Musil, quote from The Man Without Qualities: Vol. 1


“إن القدرة على أسمى المشاعر هي في معظم الطبائع، نبتة رقيقة جداً، وسهلة الفناء، ليس فحسب من خلال التأثيرات السيئة والمعادية لها، بل بسبب نقص بسيط في تغذيتها. وبالنسبة لأغلبية الشبان فإنها تموت إذا ما كانت انشغالاتهم بحكم وضعهم في الحياة التي سخروا لها، والمجتمع الذي وجدوا أنفسهم فيه، لا تساعدهم على الحفاظ على هذه القدرات العالية في حالة اشتغال. إن البشر يفقدون تطلعاتهم العالية لأنهم يفقدون أذواقهم الفكرية وذلك بسبب ضيق الوقت أو عدم توفر الفرص السانحة لهم بالتدليل عليها. فيدمنون على اللذات الحسية ليس بسبب أنهم يفضلونها بعد المداولة، بل لأنها هي الوحيدة التي لديهم إمكانية الوصول إليها أو الوحيدة التي يمكن الاستمتاع بها”
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“So this chocolate princess. Her knight in shining armor is the Easter Bunny.”
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“When the trees and the power lines crashed around you, when the very roof gave way above you, when the light turned to darkness and water turned to dust, did you call on Him?

When you called on Him, was He somewhere up there, or was He as near as your very breath?”
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