Quotes from The Upside of Unrequited

“I don’t entirely understand how anyone gets a boyfriend. Or a girlfriend. It just seems like the most impossible odds. You have to have a crush on the exact right person at the exact right moment. And they have to like you back. A perfect alignment of feelings and circumstances. It’s almost unfathomable that it happens as often as it does.”
― Becky Albertalli, quote from The Upside of Unrequited

“Because I have to admit: there's something really badass about truly, honestly not caring what people think about you.”
― Becky Albertalli, quote from The Upside of Unrequited

“There’s just something terrifying about admitting you like someone. In a way, it’s actually easier when there’s no chance of anything happening. But there’s this threshold where things suddenly become possible. And then your cards are on the table. And there you are, wanting, right out in the open.”
― Becky Albertalli, quote from The Upside of Unrequited

“I'm on the toilet at the 9:30 Club and I'm wondering how mermaids pee.”
― Becky Albertalli, quote from The Upside of Unrequited

“It's funny, because you always think the hard part is meeting someone the first time. It's not. It's the second time, because you've already used up all the obvious topics of conversation. And even if you haven't, it's strange and heavy-handed to introduce random conversational topics at this stage in the game. Hi, Reid. Let's converse about topics. HOW MANY SIBLINGS DO YOU HAVE? WHAT BOOKS DO YOU LIKE?”
― Becky Albertalli, quote from The Upside of Unrequited

“I mean, here’s the thing I don’t get. How do people come to expect that their crushes will be reciprocated? Like, how does that get to be your default assumption?”
― Becky Albertalli, quote from The Upside of Unrequited

“I think every relationship is actually a million relationships.”
― Becky Albertalli, quote from The Upside of Unrequited

“Even if he likes me, I’m not sure he’d like me naked. I hate that I’m even thinking that. I hate hating my body. Actually, I don’t even hate my body. I just worry everyone else might. Because chubby girls don’t get boyfriends, and they definitely don’t have sex. Not in movies—not really—unless it’s supposed to be a joke. And I don’t want to be a joke.”
― Becky Albertalli, quote from The Upside of Unrequited

“So, maybe I should let my heart break, just to prove that my heart can take it.”
― Becky Albertalli, quote from The Upside of Unrequited

“I’m not trying to overthink things. I’m trying to be less careful. But you have to be your heart’s own goalie.”
― Becky Albertalli, quote from The Upside of Unrequited

“Something like that. But you know, there's an upside here. Because when you spend so much time just intensely wanting something, and then you actually get the thing? It's magic.” All of a sudden, I feel like crying. In a good way. In the best way. Because I know exactly what she means. It's butterflies and haziness and heart eyes, but underneath all that, there's this bass line of I can't believe this. I can't believe this is me. I can't quite articulate the sweetness of that feeling. It's finding out the door you were banging on is finally unlocked. Maybe it was unlocked the whole time.”
― Becky Albertalli, quote from The Upside of Unrequited

“I mean, I think people have this mentality that sex is only real if it involves a penis.”
― Becky Albertalli, quote from The Upside of Unrequited

“You would matter. That's the thing. I get into this weird place sometimes where I worry about that. I've never told anyone this - not my moms, not Cassie - but that's the thing I'm most afraid of. Not mattering. Existing in a world that doesn't care who I am.”
― Becky Albertalli, quote from The Upside of Unrequited

“Perfect! You guys are the same age. I bet you have a lot in common.”
Classic adult logic. Reid and I are vaguely the same age, so of course we’re basically soul mates. It’s like horoscopes. Somehow I’m supposed to believe that I’m similar in some meaningful way to every single person born on my birthday. Or every single Sagittarius. I mean, I barely have anything in common with Cassie, and we were born six minutes apart.”
― Becky Albertalli, quote from The Upside of Unrequited

“I want to know what it feels like to have crushes that could conceivably maybe one day turn into boyfriends.”
― Becky Albertalli, quote from The Upside of Unrequited

“I don’t feel like doing anything. I don’t even know what I need right now. I just want to feel normal.”
― Becky Albertalli, quote from The Upside of Unrequited

“It’s just a lot of me. Way too much of me.”
― Becky Albertalli, quote from The Upside of Unrequited

“And it's a little different with every guy, so it's kind of hard to generalize—but if I had to describe the feeling of a crush, I'd say this: you just finished running a mile, and you have to throw up, and you're starving, but no food seems appealing, and your brain becomes fog, and you also have to pee. It's this close to intolerable. But I like it.”
― Becky Albertalli, quote from The Upside of Unrequited

“Here’s what I would never, ever admit out loud: a part of me always thought it was some kind of secret compliment when someone got called a slut. It meant you were having sex. Which meant people wanted to have sex with you. Being a slut just meant you were normal. But I think maybe I’m wrong about that.”
― Becky Albertalli, quote from The Upside of Unrequited

“I never really know the protocol for this kind of situation. It's like when you're in line at a store, and a grandma starts telling you all about her grandchildren or her arthritis, and you smile and nod along. But then it's your turn to check out, so you're just like okay, well, good-bye forever.”
― Becky Albertalli, quote from The Upside of Unrequited

“Here’s a frustrating thing about me: if everyone else is happy, I usually can’t stay pissed off. My moods are conformists. It sucks, because sometimes you really want to be angry.”
― Becky Albertalli, quote from The Upside of Unrequited

“I think the way I feel about the internet is the way some people feel about the ocean. It's so huge and unknowable, but also totally predictable. You type a line of symbols and click enter, and everything you want to happen, happens.

Not like real life, where all the wanting in the world can't make something exist.”
― Becky Albertalli, quote from The Upside of Unrequited

“But you know, there’s an upside here. Because when you spend so much time just intensely wanting something, and then you actually get the thing? It’s magic.” All”
― Becky Albertalli, quote from The Upside of Unrequited

“And suddenly, I feel like crying, but not in a bad way. More like in the way you feel when someone gives you a perfect present—something you’d been wanting, but thought you couldn’t ask for. It’s that feeling of someone knowing you in all the ways you needed to be known.”
― Becky Albertalli, quote from The Upside of Unrequited

“I was basically born knowing how to casually stalk people on social media.”
― Becky Albertalli, quote from The Upside of Unrequited

“I guess it’s just this feeling that my body is secretly all wrong. Which means any guy who assumes I’m normal is going to flip his shit if we get to the point of nakedness. Whoa. Nope. Not what I signed up for.”
― Becky Albertalli, quote from The Upside of Unrequited

“Anyway, thanks for saving my butt. Literally.” She shakes her head. “Okay, not my butt.” I giggle. “It’s okay.” “Thanks for saving my labia.”
― Becky Albertalli, quote from The Upside of Unrequited

“I can’t seem to shake this perpetual awareness of being Molly.”
― Becky Albertalli, quote from The Upside of Unrequited

“Like, this whole Molly thing with the secret crushes that go nowhere. I’m over it.” “Oh, you’re over it?” My throat tightens. “Uh, I’m sorry boys don’t like me.” “That is such bullshit, Molly. You don’t even talk to them.” Here we go. Cassie’s soapbox: the fact that I’ve had twenty-six crushes and exactly zero kisses. Apparently, it’s because I need to woman up. If I like a guy, I’m supposed to tell him. Maybe in Cassie’s world, you can do that and have it end in making out. But I’m not so sure it works that way for fat girls.”
― Becky Albertalli, quote from The Upside of Unrequited

“But it's not quite so raw. You know, when you're seventeen, everything feels like the end of the world. Or the beginning of the world. And that's an awesome thing.”
― Becky Albertalli, quote from The Upside of Unrequited

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