Quotes from The Tender Bar

“While I fear that we're drawn to what abandons us, and to what seems most likely to abandon us, in the end I believe we're defined by what embraces us.”
― J.R. Moehringer, quote from The Tender Bar

“I don't know. Sometimes I try to say what's on my mind and it comes out sounding like I ate a dictionary and I'm shitting pages. Sorry”
― J.R. Moehringer, quote from The Tender Bar

“Your best is whatever you can do comfortably without having a breakdown.”
― J.R. Moehringer, quote from The Tender Bar

“History is the narrative of people searching for a place to go.”
― J.R. Moehringer, quote from The Tender Bar

“I began dividing life in absolutes... Things and people were either perfectly bad, or perfectly good, and when life didn't obey this black-and-white rule, when things or people were complex or contradictory, I pretended otherwise. I turned every defeat into a disaster, every success into an epic triumph, and separated all people into heroes or villains. Unable to bear ambiguity, I built a barricade of delusions against it. ”
― J.R. Moehringer, quote from The Tender Bar

“Of course many bars in Manhasset, like bars everywhere, were nasty places, full of pickled people marinating in regret.”
― J.R. Moehringer, quote from The Tender Bar

“Do you know why God invented writers? Because he loves a good story. And he doesn't give a damn about the words. Words are the curain we've hung between him and our true selves. Try not to think about the words. Don't strin for the perfect sentence. There's no such thing. Writing si guesswork. Every sentence is an educated guess, the readers as much as yours.”
― J.R. Moehringer, quote from The Tender Bar

“I hate when people ask what a book is about. People who read for plot, people who suck out the story like the cream filling in an Oreo, should stick to comic strips and soap operas. What’s it about? Every book worth a damn is about emotions and love and death and pain. It’s about words. It’s about a man dealing with life. Okay?”
― J.R. Moehringer, quote from The Tender Bar

“It takes just as many men to build a sturdy man, son, as it does to build a tower. You will look back on this time and remember remarkably little of it, excpt the extent to which I tried or did not try.”
― J.R. Moehringer, quote from The Tender Bar

“People just don't understand how many men it takes to build one good man. Next time you're in Manhattan and you see one of those mighty skyscrapers going up, pay attention to how many men are engaged in the enterprise. It takes just as many men to build a sturdy man, son, as it does to build a tower.”
― J.R. Moehringer, quote from The Tender Bar

“Did you read where the great-grandson of Nathan Hale got married this weekend? Give me liberty or give me death. That’s what the groom will be saying in about one month.”
― J.R. Moehringer, quote from The Tender Bar

“[G]randma was always afraid of something. She set aside time each day for dread. And not nameless dread. She was quite specific about the various tragedies stalking her. She feared pneumonia, muggers, riptides, meteors, drunk drivers, drug addicts, serial killers, tornadoes, doctors, unscrupulous grocery clerks, and the Russians. The depth of Grandma’s dread came home to me when she bought a lottery ticket and sat before the tv as the numbers were called. After her first three numbers were a match, she began praying feverishly that she wouldn’t have the next three. She dreaded winning, for fear that her heart would give out.”
― J.R. Moehringer, quote from The Tender Bar

“Your ancestral homeland is Queens, fuckface.”
― J.R. Moehringer, quote from The Tender Bar

“If you think Sigourney Weaver is
sexy then you are a homosexual.”
― J.R. Moehringer, quote from The Tender Bar

“Angst ist der Schlüssel zum Erfolg und der Hauptgrund für dein Scheitern, Angst ist das zugrunde liegende Dilemma in jeder Geschihte, die du dir über dich selbst erzählst. Und was ist die einzige Chance, die du gegen Angst hast? Folge ihr. Lass dich von ihr leiten.”
― J.R. Moehringer, quote from The Tender Bar

“... as if I’d said I wanted to sell cheese sandwiches outside Grateful
Dead concerts...”
― J.R. Moehringer, quote from The Tender Bar

“Ich wollte ihm erklären, dass Bücher nicht unbedingt denselben Zweck erfüllen wie Werkzeuge, dass es keinen klaren Unterschied gab, ob man sie benutzte oder nicht. Bücher geben mir ein Gefühl der Genugtuung, es war schön, sie aufgereiht in Regalen und am Boden zu sehen. Sie waren der versöhnlichste Blickfang in meiner verwahrlosten Wohnung. Meine Bücher leisteten mir Gesellschaft, munterten mich auf. Und da jedes Buch, das ich seit meiner Kindheit besaß, vom Keller verschimmelt war oder keinen Umschlag hatte, war ich besonders pingelig. Ich schrieb nicht an den Rand, machte keine Eselsohren in die Seiten und lieh sie nie aus”
― J.R. Moehringer, quote from The Tender Bar

“We went there for everything we needed. We went there when thirsty, of course, and when hungry, and when dead tired. We went there when happy, to celebrate, and when sad, to sulk. We went there after weddings and funerals, for something to settle our nerves, and always for a shot of courage just before. We went there when we didn't know what we needed, hoping someone might tell us. We went there when looking for love, or sex, or trouble, or for someone who had gone missing, because sooner or later everyone turned up there. Most of all we went there when we needed to be found.”
― J.R. Moehringer, quote from The Tender Bar

“Tienes que hacer todo lo que te asuste, JR. Todo. No digo que pongas en peligro tu vida, pero todo lo demás, sí. Piensa en el miedo, decide ahora mismo vas a enfrentarte al miedo, porque el miedo va a ser la gran cuestión de tu vida, esto te lo aseguro. El miedo será el combustible de todos tus éxitos y la raíz de todos tus fracasos, y el dilema subyacente en todas las historias que te cuentes a ti mismo sobre ti mismo. ¿Y cuál es la única posibilidad que tienes de vencer el miedo? Ir con él. Pilotar a su lado. No pienses en el miedo como en el malo de la película. Piensa en el miedo como tu guía, en tu explorador de caminos”
― J.R. Moehringer, quote from The Tender Bar

“Ci andavamo per ogni nostro bisogno. Quando avevamo sete, naturalmente, e fame, e quand’eravamo stanchi morti. Ci andavamo se eravamo felici, per festeggiare, e quand’eravamo tristi, per tenere il broncio. Ci andavamo dopo i matrimoni e i funerali, a prendere qualcosa per calmarci i nervi, e appena prima, per farci coraggio. Ci andavamo quando non sapevamo di cos’avevamo bisogno, ne la speranza che qualcuno ce lo dicesse. Ci andavamo in cerca d’amore, o di sesso, o di guai, o di qualcuno che era sparito, perché prima o poi capitava lì. Ci andavamo soprattutto quando avevamo bisogno di essere ritrovati.”
― J.R. Moehringer, quote from The Tender Bar

“And because I found it in my youth, the bar was that much more sacred, its image clouded by that special reverence children accord those places where they feel safe. Others might feel this way about a classroom or playground, a theater or church, a laboratory or library or stadium. Even a home. But none of these places claimed me. We exalt what is at hand. Had I grown up beside a river or an ocean, some natural avenue of self-discovery and escape, I might have mythologized it. Instead I grew up 142 steps from a glorious old American tavern, and that has made all the difference.”
― J.R. Moehringer, quote from The Tender Bar

“Sometimes I felt so alone that I wish there were a bigger, longer word for alone. I tried to tell Grandma about this feeling, about my suspicion that life was nicking away pieces of me.”
― J.R. Moehringer, quote from The Tender Bar

“I looked around the barroom. Someone else might have seen nothing more than a random crowd of drinkers, but I saw my people. Kith and kin. Every sort of person was there – stockbrokers and safecrackers, athletes and invalids, mothers and supermodels – but we were as one. We’d all been hurt by something, or somebody, and so we’d all come to Publicans, because misery loves company, but what it really craves is a crowd.”
― J.R. Moehringer, quote from The Tender Bar

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