Quotes from The Perks of Being a Wallflower

Stephen Chbosky ·  213 pages

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“We accept the love we think we deserve.”
― Stephen Chbosky, quote from The Perks of Being a Wallflower


“So, this is my life. And I want you to know that I am both happy and sad and I'm still trying to figure out how that could be.”
― Stephen Chbosky, quote from The Perks of Being a Wallflower


“Things change. And friends leave. Life doesn't stop for anybody.”
― Stephen Chbosky, quote from The Perks of Being a Wallflower


“And in that moment, I swear we were infinite.”
― Stephen Chbosky, quote from The Perks of Being a Wallflower


“There's nothing like deep breaths after laughing that hard. Nothing in the world like a sore stomach for the right reasons.”
― Stephen Chbosky, quote from The Perks of Being a Wallflower



“I would die for you. But I won't live for you.”
― Stephen Chbosky, quote from The Perks of Being a Wallflower


“So, I guess we are who we are for alot of reasons. And maybe we'll never know most of them. But even if we don't have the power to choose where we come from, we can still choose where we go from there. We can still do things. And we can try to feel okay about them.”
― Stephen Chbosky, quote from The Perks of Being a Wallflower


“I think that if I ever have kids, and they are upset, I won't tell them that people are starving in China or anything like that because it wouldn't change the fact that they were upset. And even if somebody else has it much worse, that doesn't really change the fact that you have what you have.”
― Stephen Chbosky, quote from The Perks of Being a Wallflower


“Once on a yellow piece of paper with green lines
he wrote a poem
And he called it "Chops"
because that was the name of his dog

And that's what it was all about
And his teacher gave him an A
and a gold star
And his mother hung it on the kitchen door
and read it to his aunts
That was the year Father Tracy
took all the kids to the zoo

And he let them sing on the bus
And his little sister was born
with tiny toenails and no hair
And his mother and father kissed a lot
And the girl around the corner sent him a
Valentine signed with a row of X's

and he had to ask his father what the X's meant
And his father always tucked him in bed at night
And was always there to do it

Once on a piece of white paper with blue lines
he wrote a poem
And he called it "Autumn"

because that was the name of the season
And that's what it was all about
And his teacher gave him an A
and asked him to write more clearly
And his mother never hung it on the kitchen door
because of its new paint

And the kids told him
that Father Tracy smoked cigars
And left butts on the pews
And sometimes they would burn holes
That was the year his sister got glasses
with thick lenses and black frames
And the girl around the corner laughed

when he asked her to go see Santa Claus
And the kids told him why
his mother and father kissed a lot
And his father never tucked him in bed at night
And his father got mad
when he cried for him to do it.


Once on a paper torn from his notebook
he wrote a poem
And he called it "Innocence: A Question"
because that was the question about his girl
And that's what it was all about
And his professor gave him an A

and a strange steady look
And his mother never hung it on the kitchen door
because he never showed her
That was the year that Father Tracy died
And he forgot how the end
of the Apostle's Creed went

And he caught his sister
making out on the back porch
And his mother and father never kissed
or even talked
And the girl around the corner
wore too much makeup
That made him cough when he kissed her

but he kissed her anyway
because that was the thing to do
And at three a.m. he tucked himself into bed
his father snoring soundly

That's why on the back of a brown paper bag
he tried another poem

And he called it "Absolutely Nothing"
Because that's what it was really all about
And he gave himself an A
and a slash on each damned wrist
And he hung it on the bathroom door
because this time he didn't think

he could reach the kitchen.”
― Stephen Chbosky, quote from The Perks of Being a Wallflower


“I am very interested and fascinated how everyone loves each other, but no one really likes each other.”
― Stephen Chbosky, quote from The Perks of Being a Wallflower



“It's just that I don't want to be somebody's crush. If somebody likes me, I want them to like the real me, not what they think I am. And I don't want them to carry it around inside. I want them to show me, so I can feel it too.”
― Stephen Chbosky, quote from The Perks of Being a Wallflower


“It's strange because sometimes, I read a book, and I think I am the people in the book.”
― Stephen Chbosky, quote from The Perks of Being a Wallflower


“I don’t know if you’ve ever felt like that. That you wanted to sleep for a thousand years. Or just not exist. Or just not be aware that you do exist. Or something like that. I think wanting that is very morbid, but I want it when I get like this. That’s why I’m trying not to think. I just want it all to stop spinning.”
― Stephen Chbosky, quote from The Perks of Being a Wallflower


“This moment will just be another story someday.”
― Stephen Chbosky, quote from The Perks of Being a Wallflower


“She wasn't bitter. She was sad, though. But it was a hopeful kind of sad. The kind of sad that just takes time. ”
― Stephen Chbosky, quote from The Perks of Being a Wallflower



“He's a wallflower. You see things. You keep quiet about them. And you understand.”
― Stephen Chbosky, quote from The Perks of Being a Wallflower


“And I thought about how many people have loved those songs. And how many people got through a lot of bad times because of those songs. And how many people enjoyed good times with those songs. And how much those songs really mean. I think it would be great to have written one of those songs. I bet if I wrote one of them, I would be very proud. I hope the people who wrote those songs are happy. I hope they feel it's enough. I really do because they've made me happy. And I'm only one person.”
― Stephen Chbosky, quote from The Perks of Being a Wallflower


“We didn't talk about anything heavy or light. We were just there together. And that was enough”
― Stephen Chbosky, quote from The Perks of Being a Wallflower


“And I guess I realized at that moment that I really did love her. Because there was nothing to gain, and that didn't matter.”
― Stephen Chbosky, quote from The Perks of Being a Wallflower


“And all the books you've read have been read by other people. And all the songs you've loved have been heard by other people. And that girl that's pretty to you is pretty to other people. and that if you looked at these facts when you were happy, you would feel great because you are describing 'unity.”
― Stephen Chbosky, quote from The Perks of Being a Wallflower



“please believe that things are good with me, and even when they're not, they will be soon enough. And i will always believe the same about you.”
― Stephen Chbosky, quote from The Perks of Being a Wallflower


“It's much easier to not know things sometimes. Things change and friends leave. And life doesn't stop for anybody. I wanted to laugh. Or maybe get mad. Or maybe shrug at how strange everybody was, especially me. I think the idea is that every person has to live for his or her own life and than make the choice to share it with other people. You can't just sit their and put everybody's lives ahead of yours and think that counts as love. You just can't. You have to do things. I'm going to do what I want to do. I'm going to be who I really am. And I'm going to figure out what that is. And we could all sit around and wonder and feel bad about each other and blame a lot of people for what they did or didn't do or what they didn't know. I don't know. I guess there could always be someone to blame. It's just different. Maybe it's good to put things in perspective, but sometimes, I think that the only perspective is to really be there. Because it's okay to feel things. I was really there. And that was enough to make me feel infinite. I feel infinite.”
― Stephen Chbosky, quote from The Perks of Being a Wallflower


“I am both happy and sad at the same time, and I'm still trying to figure out how that could be.”
― Stephen Chbosky, quote from The Perks of Being a Wallflower


“I walk around the school hallways and look at the people. I look at the teachers and wonder why they're here. If they like their jobs. Or us. And I wonder how smart they were when they were fifteen. Not in a mean way. In a curious way. It's like looking at all the students and wondering who's had their heart broken that day, and how they are able to cope with having three quizzes and a book report due on top of that. Or wondering who did the heart breaking. And wondering why.”
― Stephen Chbosky, quote from The Perks of Being a Wallflower


“Just tell me how to be different in a way that makes sense.”
― Stephen Chbosky, quote from The Perks of Being a Wallflower



“I just want you to know that you’re very special… and the only reason I’m telling you is that I don’t know if anyone else ever has.”
― Stephen Chbosky, quote from The Perks of Being a Wallflower


“I just need to know that someone out there listens and understands and doesn't try to sleep with someone even if they could have. I need to know these people exist.”
― Stephen Chbosky, quote from The Perks of Being a Wallflower


“It was the kind of kiss that made
me know that I was never so happy in my whole life.”
― Stephen Chbosky, quote from The Perks of Being a Wallflower


“Sometimes people use thought to not participate in life.”
― Stephen Chbosky, quote from The Perks of Being a Wallflower


About the author

Stephen Chbosky
Born place: in Pittsburgh, PA, The United States
Born date January 25, 1970
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