Honor
Quotes from the Book
Every true love and friendship is a story of unexpected transformation. If we are the same person before and after we loved, that means we haven't loved enough.
If we are the same person before and after we loved, that means we haven't loved enough.
Whatever happens in your life, no matter how troubling things might seem, do not enter the neighborhood of despair. Even when all doors remain closed, God will open up a new path only for you. Be thankful!
Do not go with the flow. Be the flow.
How can love be worthy of its name if one selects solely the pretty things and leaves out the hardships? It is easy to enjoy the good and dislike the bad. Anybody can do that. The real challenge is to love the good and the bad together, not because you need to take the rough with the smooth but because you need to go beyond such descriptions and accept love in its entirety.
Love cannot be explained, yet it explains all.
Patience does not mean to passively endure. It means to be farsighted enough to trust the end result of a process. What does patience mean? It means to look at the thorn and see the rose, to look at the night and see the dawn. Impatience means to be so shortsighted as to not be able to see the outcome. The lovers of God never run out of patience, for they know that time is needed for the crescent moon to become full.
Did you know?
- The novel was first published in Turkish in 2009 under the title Aşk, meaning 'love'.
- It is structured as a novel within a novel, with a contemporary frame story and an inner historical narrative titled Sweet Blasphemy.
- The book is organized around five sections named for the elements water, air, earth, fire, and void.
- Shams of Tabriz's forty rules of love are revealed to the reader at intervals throughout the narrative.
- The inner story dramatizes the real historical relationship between the poet Rumi and the mystic Shams of Tabriz.
About Elif Shafak
About the book
The Forty Rules of Love is a novel within a novel by the Turkish-British writer Elif Shafak, telling two parallel love stories separated by seven centuries. In the present day, Ella Rubinstein, a forty-year-old housewife in a stale marriage, takes a job as a reader for a literary agency and is assigned a manuscript called Sweet Blasphemy. That inner novel recounts the thirteenth-century meeting of the poet Rumi, a respected but spiritually settled preacher, and Shams of Tabriz, a wandering dervish whose teachings transform Rumi into one of history's great mystical poets.
As Ella reads, she begins an email correspondence with the manuscript's author, Aziz Zahara, and the Sufi wisdom of Shams's forty rules of love gradually unsettles the safe, predictable life she has built. The medieval and modern strands mirror one another, each protagonist confronted with a choice between security and the risk and ecstasy of authentic love. The book is structured around the elements of water, air, earth, fire, and void, and reveals Shams's forty rules at intervals throughout.
Blending historical fiction, romance, and Sufi philosophy, the novel became an international bestseller, first appearing in Turkish as Aşk in 2009 before Shafak's English version was published in 2010. It has been widely read for its accessible treatment of Rumi and Sufism and its themes of spiritual awakening, the transformative power of love, and the search for meaning across cultures and centuries. It was later nominated for the International IMPAC Dublin Literary Award and appeared on the BBC's 2019 list of 100 novels that shaped the world.
Key characters
- Ella RubinsteinDiscontented forty-year-old housewife who reads the manuscript in the present day
- Aziz ZaharaAuthor of the inner manuscript who begins corresponding with Ella
- Shams of TabrizWandering thirteenth-century dervish who teaches the forty rules of love
- RumiRenowned preacher and poet transformed by his friendship with Shams
- KimyaYoung woman taken into Rumi's household and drawn to Shams
- KerraRumi's devoted wife
Book details
- First published
- 2009
- Length
- 354 pages
- Reading time
- 21 hours
- Author
- Elif Shafak
- Genre
- Fiction
- Goodreads rating
- 4.10 (212k ratings) →
- First line
- “Between your fingers you hold a stone and throw it into flowing water.”
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