Quotes from Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder

“You survived by seizing every tiny drop of love you could find anywhere, and milking it, relishing it, for all it was worth. And as you grew up, you sought love, anywhere you could find it, whether it was a teacher or a coach or a friend or a friend's parents. You sought those tiny droplets of love, basking in them when you found them. They sustained you. For all these years, you've lived under the illusion that somehow, you made it because you were tough enough to overpower the abuse, the hatred, the hard knocks of life. But really you made it because love is so powerful that tiny little doses of it are enough to overcome the pain of the worst things life can dish out. Toughness was a faulty coping mechanism you devised to get by. But, in reality, it has been your ability to never give up, to keep seeking love, and your resourcefulness to make that love last long enough to sustain you. That is what has gotten you by.”
― quote from Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder

“I couldn’t trust my own emotions. Which emotional reactions were justified, if any? And which ones were tainted by the mental illness of BPD? I found myself fiercely guarding and limiting my emotional reactions, chastising myself for possible distortions and motivations. People who had known me years ago would barely recognize me now. I had become quiet and withdrawn in social settings, no longer the life of the party. After all, how could I know if my boisterous humor were spontaneous or just a borderline desire to be the center of attention? I could no longer trust any of my heart felt beliefs and opinions on politics, religion, or life. The debate queen had withered. I found myself looking at every single side of an issue unable to come to any conclusions for fear they might be tainted. My lifelong ability to be assertive had turned into a constant state of passivity.”
― quote from Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder

“For all these years, you’ve lived under the illusion that, somehow, you made it because you were tough enough to overpower the abuse, the hatred, the hard knocks of life. But really you made it because love is so powerful that tiny little doses of it are enough to overcome the pain of the worst things life can dish out. Toughness was a faulty coping mechanism you devised to get by. But, in reality, it has been your ability to never give up, to keep seeking love, and your resourcefulness to make that love last long enough to sustain you. That’s what has gotten you by”
― quote from Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder

“I was the one who was fighting for survival and I was also the murderer within.”
― quote from Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder

“And, as an adult, you have the freedom and the access to indulge in much greater forms of self-destruction than a two-year-old could ever have. You can drink and use drugs. You can smoke. You can be promiscuous. You can kill yourself if you want to, run into the streets at night, choose to eat everything in sight, or starve yourself. It's dangerous when the raw black-and-white emotions of a child are harbored in an adult's mind and body.”
― quote from Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder

“I didn't understand why I could not control myself despite my best intentions.”
― quote from Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder

“Some scientists were conducting an experiment, he said, trying to gauge the impact of abuse on children. Ducks, like people, develop bonds between mother and young. They call it imprinting. So the scientists set out to test how that imprint bond would be affected by abuse.

The control group was a real mother duck and her ducklings. For the experimental group, the scientist used a mechanical duck they had created - feathers, sound, and all - which would, at timed intervals, peck the ducklings with its mechanical beak. A painful peck, one a real duck would not give.

They varied these groups. Each group was pecked with a different level of frequency. And then they watched the ducklings grow and imprint bond with their mother.

Over time, he went on, the ducklings in the control group would waddle along behind their mother. But as they grew, there would be more distance between them. They'd wander and explore.

The ducklings with the pecking mechanical mother, though, followed much more closely. Even the scientists were stunned to discover that the group that bonded and followed most closely was the one that had been pecked repeatedly with the greatest frequency. The more the ducklings were pecked and abused, the more closely they followed. The scientist repeated the experiment and got the same results.”
― quote from Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder

“            Tempting as it may be to draw one conclusion or another from my story and universalize it to apply to another's experience, it is not my intention for my book to be seen as some sort of cookie-cutter approach and explanation of mental illness, It is not ab advocacy of any particular form of therapy over another. Nor is it meant to take sides in the legitimate and necessary debate within the mental health profession if which treatments are most effective for this or any other mental illness.
            What it is, I hope, is a way for readers to get a true feel for what it's like to be in the grips of mental illness and what it's like to strive for recovery.”
― quote from Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder

“Deeply vulnerable and hurting within as you act tough outside. You do need people; you need them so much so that it scares you to death. You drive them away so they don't get too close; yet you regret it every time you do.”
― quote from Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder

“The best revenge is living well,”
― quote from Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder

“The only way to see the light at the end of the tunnel was to crawl through the mud in darkness.”
― quote from Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder

“Most important, the reason I wrote this book is to serve as proof that miracles do happen, that love can and does heal wounds, that there is hope for those with the courage and fortitude to seek healing.”
― quote from Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder

“If the borderline rage that had fueled me for so long was torn down and taken away, would there be anything left? Or would it take the life, the spirit, right out of me? I was daunted by the prospect of letting go without a clear idea of what would emerge in the old framework's place.”
― quote from Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder

“One of the reasons teenagers rebel is to test the limits to make sure they are still there. But for you it was particularly difficult. And something you never really got over.”
― quote from Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder

“As much as I loathed pain, progress did not seem to come without it.”
― quote from Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder

“I was getting better at controlling my emotional reactions. When feelings overwhelmed me, I learned to thwart the burning temptation to act self-destructively and to sit with the feelings instead.”
― quote from Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder

“Love is infinitely more powerful than hate,”
― quote from Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder

“It was like being in a struggle for survival against a murderous foe, except I was the one who was fighting for survival and I was also the murderer within.”
― quote from Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder

“Former pleasures meant nothing to me anymore. Life was a series of tasks to be endured, and even the simplest ones were painfully arduous. It took everything I could muster to cook a meal, wash the dishes, or do the laundry. My income was virtually nonexistent. My occupation was therapy.”
― quote from Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder

“mental illness, depression, was indeed an illness with a physiological basis. It wasn't a sign of failure. I wasn't a failure.”
― quote from Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder

“If my mind began to wander again, I found a way to distract it. Stay busy. Get drunk. Get laid. Anything to escape the chamber of torture that was my mind.”
― quote from Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder

“The thing I knew I needed to let go of most was anger. I would have to take on faith that something else would come in its place.”
― quote from Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder

“Death scared me because I feared nothingness. If I had been nothing before I was born, then I could imagine that I would be nothing once I died.”
― quote from Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder

“If the walls were cracking, I'd plastered the surface back to smoothness. If the floor tiles were crumbling, I'd replaced them. If the roof was leaking, I'd patched the leaks. I'd pretended that, because the “house” still appeared okay, all was okay. Nothing had changed; all had been fixed. Nothing else needed to change.”
― quote from Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder

“A few of the researchers seem to think that once a borderline, always a borderline. That you can't cure it—you can only control it. That a lot of people are destined to live their lives in and out of institutions, that there isn't much hope.”
― quote from Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder

“The lawyer plays on sympathies, tugs on heartstrings, and twists everything around so that somehow the rapist or murderer becomes the victim. Perhaps the lawyer's story of neglect and abuse is true. Sad, perhaps. But to me, it never cut it as an excuse. The dead person is the victim, and the murderer is the murderer.”
― quote from Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder

“(...) istnieje pewna ciekawa teoria grzechu pierworodnego, o której chciałem ci opowiedzieć (...) – niektórzy teologowie uważają, że w przypadku Adama i Ewy nie chodziło o zjedzenie zakazanego jabłka, tylko o znęcanie się nad dzieckiem.
- Znęcanie się nad dzieckiem?
- Tak. Czy sądzisz, że inny grzech byłby w stanie przechodzić z pokolenia na pokolenie? Wykorzystywanie dzieci – znęcanie się i molestowanie seksualne – trwa przez wieki. Dzieci, nad którymi się znęcano, stają się okrutnymi mordercami. Zaczynają dręczyć swoje dzieci i tak dalej. Taki grzech może rozchodzić się niczym fale na wodzie do dwudziestego albo trzydziestego pokolenia.
- Ciekawa teoria.
- I ma też praktyczne konsekwencje. Ponieważ wszyscy pochodzimy od Adama i Ewy, więc jesteśmy ze sobą powiązani niczym rodzina. Jeśli kogoś krzywdzimy, krzywda nie zatrzymuje się na tej osobie, ale idzie dalej. Ból łatwo się rozprzestrzenia. (...)
- To straszne! A gdzie jest koniec tego łańcucha?
- (...), może nim być miłość. Dobre uczynki.”
― quote from Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder

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